Learning how to effectively communicate how we feel can be a challenge, not just for adults, but for kids as well. It’s easy to simply blame someone else by saying things like: “YOU’RE wrong. YOU’RE a jerk because you ate the last of the ice cream that I’ve been looking forward to all day!” Instead, of projecting the blame for how we feel onto someone else, it’s better to let the other person know how we feel. In this lesson, you will help your students learn how to use I Statements: I feel…when you…and I want…
In part one of the lesson, students will do the following:
- Choose an emotion word from the I feel column that describes how the situation made you feel.
- Choose an action from the when you column the describes what the other person did.
- Choose an action from the and I want column that describes what you would like the other person to do.
Students will write in their own words on the sand castle pieces in each column to fit the specific situations they are experiencing.
In part two of our I statements lesson, students will show their friend that they were listening, heard how they feel, and will do better next time using a similar framework: You sound…because I…Next time I will…
- Choose an emotion word from the you sound column that describes how the other person says they are feeling.
- Choose an action from the because I column the describes what you did to make the other person feel that way.
- Choose an action from the next time I will column that describes what you will do instead the next time this situation happens.